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You don’t have to wait for  violence to occur, here are some Green Dots you can start doing now…

  • Talk to a friend or family member about interpersonal violence.

  • Share a positive bystander story on your social media site.

  • Ask your supervisor if your staff could sign up for a bystander training.

  • If you see something that makes you uncomfortable, do something.

A green dot is any action that helps create a safer community. By adding your voice and your commitment to ending violence, we can create a safer community.

Fundamentally, violence is a collection of individual choices to do harm.  And each choice to do harm is a red dot on our map. A red dot is a moment in time where someone’s words, choices or actions contribute to or tolerate   violence in any way.  Our goal is to combat these red dots with positive green dots


The 3 D’s

When choosing to intervene in a situation, you have to take your personal boundaries and safety into account.  Luckily, Green Dot provides three ways to do this:

Direct—Do it yourself.

This approach just means you are directly interacting with the people involved in the situation and addressing that you are concerned. It may be a confrontation “Hey—what are you doing?”, or it may just be checking in with a friend or family member “Are you OK?”.

Delegate—Get someone else to do it.

When you recognize a red dot situation and you may be uncomfortable saying something yourself or you feel like someone else is better suited to handle it (i.e. a friend, police, bartender, VPSO, trusted family member, elder), delegate is a solid option. Here you are asking someone else to help in the situation. They may help you—or they may do it instead of you.

Distract—Stop it indirectly.

If you see a  situation and can think of a way to divert the attention of the people in the situation or change the focus, distract is the perfect option. Sometimes all a situation needs to diffuse is a little diversion.

What Would You Do?

In the following scenarios, which of the 3 D’s would you most likely use:

At a local restaurant or bar, you notice someone trying to take advantage of someone who has been drinking.

DIRECT: Checking in with the person who has been drinking and making sure they get home safe or challenging the  person who is trying to take advantage.

DELEGATE: Alerting the bartender or finding the friends of the person who has been  drinking to check in.

DISTRACT: Spill a drink to create a situation to check in or start a conversation to keep them from leaving.

A caregiver seems out of control with their young son at the park.

DIRECT: “Can I help?” or “It might be     helpful to take a few breaths. I know kids can be a challenge, but I think the situation can be taken care of if you are able to calm down.

DELEGATE: Ask another bystander in the park to come with you to check in.

DISTRACT: Start a conversation with the child or with the caregiver; let your dog run to them; bounce a ball to them; drop your purse or bag next to them.

If you or a friend needs help call 

 Cordova Family Resource Center Office — 907-424-5674  

24-Hour Help Line — 907- 424-4357

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